The (vanilla) spouse question

Dear Meelp community, I have a question: how do you all deal with a spouse that is not THAT much into a kinky/hot/lusty lifestyle? I mean, my partner likes all this stuff but not much as I do, and per
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Ivelisse:
He found out I got back together with my ex, but it only lasted for two days, where we broke up for the same reasons we broke up the first time.
(28 May 2017)

Ivelisse:
A guy at work that likes me has been avoiding me recently.
(28 May 2017)

Velia:
I wanna have an abortion because my baby is a girl but I want a boy. Can I?
(28 May 2017)

Mica:
Is it selfish for someone to leave a suicide note for the purpose of blaming others?
(28 May 2017)

Staci:
Le guste?
(28 May 2017)

Micha:
10 points!! i am in love with a girl?
(28 May 2017)

Melda:
I am in love with a girl that rejected me, she is back, but I feel hopeless about us. What can I do??
(28 May 2017)

Melda:
I havent hear from her in 3 days.
(28 May 2017)

Melda:
They broke up, she texted me back explaining everyting, telling me that she was confused with me and that this guy was chasing her for a long time until she finally accepted him.
(28 May 2017)

Melda:
It is courious, but from the day she turned me down, she texted me sometimes, sending poems, etc.
(28 May 2017)