Natural instinct versus learned behaviour.

Bear with me as I am not sure how to word this.What makes some first encounters good, great or awesome and some first just awful?Realize some of us are a bit nervous first time for what ever reason as
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Roslyn:
She also said she's liked me, which I already knew.
(5 July 2018)

Roslyn:
We were just walking and talking and I kept telling her how I've liked her for a long time, and she kept getting embarrassed telling me I'm just drunk, but I wasn't.
(5 July 2018)

Roslyn:
She also said she could just sell her car, and bring her cats and move back home (she grew up here). I told her i don't want her to move back for me, only come back if it's what she wants, and she told me her family's here.
(5 July 2018)

Roslyn:
She said that there was ways for us.
(5 July 2018)

Roslyn:
I completely spilled my guts, and told her I was only afraid to tell her because the last time I showed interest in her she had to moved away, and I was afraid to be with her because she lives 2000 miles away.
(5 July 2018)

Roslyn:
I told her I didn't have a drink for the last 3 hours, to prove I wasn't drunk I told her details about how we met.
(5 July 2018)

Roslyn:
When I told her I liked her still she was shocked and thought I was just drunk or something.
(5 July 2018)

Roslyn:
So we're walking and talking and I just start telling her everything.
(5 July 2018)

Roslyn:
I was walking to the store after the fireworks and seen her, so I asked her if she wanted to go with me.
(5 July 2018)

Roslyn:
The girl I've had a crush on since we were 13 is visiting for 4th of July, I just told my feelings to her last night.
(5 July 2018)